And now you're here.

Not because you stopped loving her…

But because you’ve stopped feeling like a man in the relationship.

Before the baby came for us, our sex life was great.

Feeling desired, chased, pursued does something to a man's self confidence. You just carry yourself differently. You fell stronger. It's not easy to describe, but you probably know what I'm talking about.

Nothing prepared me for what was to come after the baby arrived.

We went from sparks flying to once a month at best. And when it did happen? It was nothing like it was before.

I was no longer chased. I no longer felt desired. It felt like I started to shrink. My self confidence imploded.

I got bitter. I blamed her. Had the "talks".

We got very distant. Still keeping the house functioning, the baby happy and taken care of, but us?

Room mates.

Overtime I pushed her so far away that she had an emotional affair over text.

It was a wake up call. Do I fix this or let the relationship go?

The second option was not an option since I didn't want to repeat what my father did to me.

But then how do I fix it?

I started with a very heavy self reflection. What got us here. Shifting the responsibility and the control from her to me.

I realised 3 major things that were driving our relationship into a hole.

1. I was putting way too much pressure on her, making her feel like every touch must lead to something more.

2. I had become boring. Predictable. Dropping my hobbies, focusing on work, always checking in and "being there for her".

3. I was focusing on what I need instead of what she wanted.

I then started to fix these one by one and by the end of it we were definitely not back to how it was before the kid..

But now I feel pursued again.

The sex is fun again because she's taking initiative again.

The frequency went from once a month to couple times a week.

The teasing and flirting FEELS like teasing and flirting again, not low-key pressure for more that leads to resentment.

We openly talk stuff we want to try in bed. And then we do it. I accommodate her, she accommodates me.

And because I dug myself out of this hole I was in for more than 2 years, I put what I learned from the experience that almost led me to cheating, that got me depressed, that almost ruined my family, in a 5 phase process that will help you see what you're not seeing right now.

I call it The After Baby Reset

It will help you understand her and then how to position yourself to be that person she grabs by the hand and drags to the bed.

And no, it's not "do more laundry" or "Just be patient" bs.

Because we're DONE waiting around for things to get better.

It's not a quick "text here this message to reignite the desire" stuff. If that's what you're looking for, you're wasting your time.

It’s also not recycled marriage advice from some 55-year-old therapist who’s never had his wife look at him like a chore.

It’s not “have more date nights” or “try scheduling intimacy” either.. Because that's just a bandaid.

It’s what actually worked — when nothing else did.

Not right away. Not perfectly. But enough to bring us back from the edge.

I put everything into a clear 5-phase process.

It’s the same process I wish someone handed me when I was sitting alone on the couch wondering what the hell happened to us.

Wondering if I was broken. If she just stopped loving me. If I was losing my mind because no one else seemed to talk about this.

This book is that conversation. The one no one has with their friends, because we're men, right? We don't talk about that stuff, lol.

And the 5 phases will take you from where you are right now — feeling disconnected, rejected, pissed off, numb — to someone she sees again. Someone she starts to want again.

Not as the guy who awkwardly keeps trying to get her in the mood.

Not as the guy who’s always “there for her.”

But as the man she wants again.

Here’s a quick glimpse of what the 5 phases help you do:

✅ Take the pressure off her completely — and shift the power back to you

✅ Rebuild the energy in the house without having another “talk”

✅ Stop being invisible — and start being felt again

✅ Create moments where she starts initiating again, without you hinting or hoping

✅ Get the sex back without begging, manipulating, or resenting.